Introduction

Have you ever wondered how other teens look happy while you look miserable? Do you want to know why some teens find it difficult to cope with their problems?

Well, the problem is within. The whole problem lies inside you, in your perception. If you can change your perception, you can change yourself, doing so, you will change your situation.

This book is the solution for all your teenage problems. You will learn how some teens have sailed through the most challenging phases of life successfully and what were the secrets of their success.

In this book, you will learn about the problems of teenage life and their solutions. You will discover that change comes  from within. If you want to make your life peaceful, you need to make your mind and body healthy and peaceful as well. In this book, you will also learn about some everyday habits of highly effective teens. Seven habits have been clearly explained in this book which can help you to change your perception and by implication yourself.

In this journey, you will learn the true meaning of success. Success does not mean money and fame. Success means to have a balance between personal and professional life.

Change the way you look at the world and the world will change for you. Make your inner self beautiful, and the world will automatically look beautiful.

So are you ready for the change? Let’s begin!

Get in the habit

Teenage is a complicated phase of life. Often teenagers do not understand what is right and what is wrong for them. They have to go through a lot of emotional up and downs in this phase. Being a teenager, you have to go through a lot of issues like friends, family, broken relationships, school and many others. You cannot turn off your life, but you can definitely change your life for the better.

The author Sean Covey suggested that seven habits are found among all successful and happy teen. Habits work on autopilot, and most of the time, you do not even realize that you have a habit of doing something all the time. Good habits can make you, while bad habits can break you. But the best part is that you can change your habit for a better life. Sean gave an example from his real-life experience to show how complicated teenage life could be.

He fell in love for the first time when he was in school. He was in love with a girl named Nicole. Sean was shy and did not dare to talk to girls directly. He told his friend, Clar, to help him propose to his crush. He asked Clar to tell Nicole that he loved her. Clar talked to Nicole about Seans’ feelings. After completing the task, He went back to Sean to say Nicole's reply. Clar told Sean that Nicole had rejected him because Sean is fat. Clar laughed at Sean, and Sean was heart-broken. He felt ashamed and wanted to hide in some place for all his life.

Teenage is a difficult phase of life where even a small innocent remark can cause significant damage. Sean recovered from the situation unharmed. But this is not the case always, because some teens find it difficult to cope up with the situation and end up harming themselves.

There is an example to show how habits can be changed. Let’s do an exercise. Fold your arms. Now fold your arms in the opposite way. You will feel a little weird because you have a habit of folding in them like the first way. If you wrap your arms in the opposite direction for thirty days, you will not feel so strange. It will become your habit by then. It means that you can change your bad habits and you can also acquire good habits.

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Habit 1: Be Proactive

There are two types of people: the first type of people are reactive, and the second type of people are proactive. Reactive people blame others for anything terrible happening or that happened to them. They do not take responsibility for their condition. Reactive people always feel victimized. Meanwhile, proactive people take charge of their lives. They take responsibility for their situation. They are not a passenger, but they are rather the driver of their own journey. Sean Covey says that the first step toward victory is to become proactive.

Let’s understand the difference between the reactive people and the proactive people with the help of an example.
Assume you have a very close friend whom you hang out with frequently, and that friend talks very sweetly to you. One day you found out that your friend is saying bad things about you in your absence, and, you  overheard the conversation. How will you feel? You will feel betrayed and hurt. Now there are two choices:  ither you can be reactive, or you can be proactive.

If you choose to be reactive, you will stop talking to that friend, and you may even attack he or her. Or you may go through depression. Or you may start speaking badly about that friend and find ways to take revenge. In this way, you have given the remote control to your friend. Now she can change your mood whenever she wants.

If you choose to be proactive, you will forgive your friend. You will tell her how you feel about that incident and how you do not want it to happen again. You will ignore what has happened and give your friend a second chance. Now you become best friends forever.

This is how proactive people take charge of their lives. They do not let anyone else control their emotions. They decide how they want to react. No one else can make you respond otherwise.

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Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

We are always busy trying to achieve one or the other. We work hard to achieve the goals we set without even analysing their values to us. We getting busy doing unimportant things not related to our set-goals results in we losing our focus and forget our real ambitions.

The second habit of highly effective teens is that they begin with the end in mind. It means to have a clear picture of what you want to be in your life. This habit is essential because of two reasons: The first one is that the teenage years is a critical crossroad. Your choice of the path you chose will affect your life in future. The second reason is that, if you do not decide who you want to be, someone else will decide it for you.

The habit  beginning with the end in mind had helped Jim to live his dreams.
When Jim was in ninth grade, he started dreaming about what he wants to be when he became an adult. Whenever he felt down and depressed, Jim used to go to a silent place and begin to visualize where he would go and where he would live when he becomes an adult. By doing this, Jim planned his whole life. He planned about his education, his future family, house and even his kids. Jim took control of his life and rooted himself firmly. Now, no one can make decisions outside his goals for him.

Teenage is a critical crossroad, where you need to choose your path wisely. Here is a story to prove this point. Sean Covey had a good friend named Jack who went to Europe and returned with a party drug. He  invited new friends and the author was also invited to try this drug. Sean knew that Jack was on the wrong path, and he did not want to follow him, but he did not have many close friends, and Sean did not want to be a loner in school. Irrespective, he decided to leave Jacks’ company and Sean made new friends. After a few months, Jack became a drug addict and was drowned in a  swimming pool. Sean was sad about Jacks’ loss, but he felt grateful that he made the right decision of leaving him on time.

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